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Survivors SPEAK OUT! . . . . . David Figurski . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20-Year Post-Injury Anniversary

On April 8, 2014, Donna published my Survivor SPEAK OUT! interview to begin her series of interviews about the experiences and thoughts of survivors and caregivers. Since then, Donna has published over 130 written interviews in which people answer Donna’s twenty survivor- or caregiver-specific questions to let the readers know their stories, tell of their lives, and give first-hand, and often hard-earned, advice for other survivors and caregivers.

In my original interview, I kept my answers short so others wouldn’t be intimidated. I didn’t need to. Other interviewees were not reluctant at all to discuss at length many of the aspects of their brain injuries. In this interview on the 20th anniversary of my TBI (traumatic brain injury), I hope to give you a more detailed look at my past and present life.

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

David Figurski

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Surprise, Arizona, USA                  dhfdmf@aol.com

3. On what date did you have your brain injury? At what age?

January 13, 2005          At age 57

4. How did your brain injury occur?

Each morning before showering, I would do Tai Chi warmup exercises and calisthenics. One day, my brain hemorrhaged on my 13th chin-up. 

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

I felt something happen in my head, but I didn’t have any pain, so I wasn’t concerned. I stopped exercising because I was seeing double. When my double-vision didn’t clear after a minute or so, I walked down the hall to where my wife (Donna) was getting ready for her job of teaching first-graders. I was exceptionally lucky that day – luck that gave me twenty years more (so far) of life. Normally, I got up at 4:00 am and left for my lab at Columbia University in New York City by 5:30 am. But I was planning to work at home that day to prepare a talk, so I got up later and overlapped Donna’s morning schedule. It turned out to be crucial because Donna saved my life. By the time I got to her, I was in crisis. She immediately saw that my right eye was filled with blood. Not long after, I felt something else happening in my head, and I began experiencing extreme pain. Donna dialed 9-1-1 to get emergency help. I became unintelligible because I was slurring my words. When the paramedics put an oxygen mask on me, the pain subsided, but I slipped into a coma, which lasted nearly three weeks.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

The paramedics took me to the Emergency Room of a nearby hospital where Donna made her first life-or-death decision – that I have immediate surgery instead of a CAT (computerized tomography) scan to see if the pressure from the brain-bleed had decreased. It’s clear now that the time that would been taken to do a CAT scan would have decreased my chance of survival by several hundred-fold.

But Donna’s nightmare was only beginning. Over the next two weeks, she had to give permission for two more surgeries on my brain. My chance of survival continued to be low.

After the first surgery, I was carefully transferred by ambulance to Columbia-Presbyterian Hospital in New York City. There, the neurosurgeon discovered an aneurysm that had to be removed. That was the second surgery. I survived … but the neurosurgeon had more bad news for Donna. She had to give permission for another dangerous surgery – to remove an AVM (arteriovenous malformation), a tangle of arteries and veins that can be a “time-bomb.” Miraculously, I survived that surgery too.

(The neurosurgeon at the local hospital for the first surgery was highly skilled, but he gets an F-grade for his manner. His first words after introducing himself to Donna were that I “would make a great organ-donor”!)

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

Yes. I was in a coma for nearly three weeks.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

Yes. A couple of weeks after my surgeries at Columbia-Presbyterian, I was transferred to Radburn Rehabilitation Hospital, which specializes in helping patients with brain injuries. There I had inpatient therapies (physical, occupational, and speech) three days a week for three hours per day. I was discharged from Radburn after about two months, but I continued with outpatient therapies – first at Radburn for three months, and then for two of months at Dominican Hospital in Santa Cruz, California, where our son lives, and then back at Radburn for about a year. 

A year after my brain-hemorrhage, I went back to my lab at Columbia University as a volunteer to direct my research group. After I stopped going to Radburn for outpatient therapies (about eighteen months after my brain-hemorrhage), I returned to Columbia University as full-time faculty member. I had a standing appointment for two hours each week with a physical therapist, who worked with me in my office until I retired at the end of August 2013.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your brain injury
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

Fortunately, my hemorrhage was at the back of the brain, so no cognitive, memory, or major personality changes resulted from my TBI. I gave lectures, wrote and was awarded a multi-year research grant from the National Institutes of Health, mentored Ph.D. students and postdoctoral scientists, and wrote and published scientific papers. In short, I had my scientific life back – which was really important to me.

But because my cerebellum and brain-stem were primarily affected, I do have several physical disabilities.

I have double-vision from a defective nerve-muscle connection in my right eye. The right side of my face droops from being paralyzed. (The loss of my ability to smile caused me to lose an important part of my self.) My swallow has been affected. It is difficult to eat some foods, and I am always in danger of aspirating. Because the right side of my tongue is paralyzed, it’s difficult to make some sounds and pronounce certain words. (For that reason, I talk less and use fewer words. I have to be careful not to sound curt or rude.) I talk more slowly, and my voice has changed because my vocal cords were affected. (My slower speech allows me to substitute a word mid-sentence to one I can more easily pronounce.) My right arm is ataxic. I can use my left arm and hand for most things, but they are not as good as they once were. (For example, it’s difficult to use my left arm to raise a glass to my mouth, and it’s impossible to do so without shaking.) My right leg is weaker than it was, and my right ankle does not automatically flex the way it should. (I have to consciously focus on my ankle for it to bend properly.) At night, I get up to go to the bathroom about every 90 minutes because I have frequent urinary urges. (Thankfully, this is not a problem during the day.) The cerebellum, which is located at the back of the brain and controls balance, was severely damaged by my hemorrhage. Consequently, my balance is really poor. Donna and I hold each other whenever I walk outside or in a strange environment, like a restaurant. In the house, where the floors are even, I can walk short distances. I use a rollator (4-wheeled walker) for longer walks in the house and an electric scooter for airports and long distances outside.

I feel extremely fortunate that all my disabilities are physical. Of course, my life is now very limited, but I can still read, write, and communicate by using my computer – with my left hand.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

Early on, I stopped thinking about what I could no longer do. Instead, I emphasized what I could still do. I then became totally comfortable with my life, and, as a result, my life now is better than it was in many ways. Of course, I would say it’s worse if I continued to grieve what I lost, but I consider that part of my life as gone, like my youth. So I don’t think about what I lost, except to be thankful that I had the chances to do what I did.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-brain-injury life?

I do miss a couple of things from my pre-TBI life. I miss leaving the house on my own. I miss just doing what I wanted to do without having to carefully plan. I miss Donna’s and my dinner conversations. (Because my damaged cerebellum caused a loss of coordination between my tongue and my teeth, I have to pay close attention to chewing. So Donna and I don’t speak when I’m eating.) I was racing cars, so I desperately miss driving. While I have a device that scans a page and reads it to me, I miss having normal vision and reading books.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-brain-injury life?

It’s hard to imagine, but my TBI caused me to improve in some areas. Things are much slower (because of my disabilities), so I can’t do as much as I once did. Because I’m slower, I’ve learned to be more efficient and more organized with the time I am able to work. Because I spend nearly all of my time at home, I have more time to be a part of Donna’s life. I have also bonded more closely with and have enjoyed more our dog, a Maltese-Poodle. Koda is a 2-year-old male rescue.

13. What do you like least about your brain injury?

I intensely dislike my loss of balance. It’s an issue that’s a burden not only for me, but also for Donna, who helps me walk whenever we go anywhere.

14. Has anything helped you to accept your brain injury?

I’ve been greatly helped by the positivity of most doctors; the nurses; the therapists; the staff; the Columbia faculty, students, and postdoctoral scientists; and many of the people I’ve come in contact with. But, by far, the greatest help has come from my wife, Donna – the most positive person I know. She cheers every gain – no matter how small. She constantly looks out for me, for example, choosing the easiest path in a restaurant, finding and researching an electric scooter, and bringing home several samples of items so I can choose.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

My home life has indeed been affected. I no longer do repairs, so Donna does them. I can’t lift heavy objects, so Donna does what she can and gets help if she needs to. Donna and I do collaborate on some projects. We once had to assemble a piece of furniture. The assembly was complicated, so I laid everything out and understood the directions. I would tell Donna what tool to use and what to do. She was great – she did everything perfectly! Now we have a useful and beautiful cabinet. I used to do everything financial. Now Donna does. She pays the bills, gets everything ready for the tax preparer, and successfully negotiated the deal for our car. I am home a lot more, so we have more time to talk. Among our many conversations are talks about what she and I are feeling in our new life that resulted from my brain injury.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Donna and I weren’t overly social. We continue to socialize in small groups of family and close friends. In the past, our focus was on our two children – and on each other at our weekly “date nights.” Now, we not only focus on our children, but also on their spouses and our grandchildren. Nothing much changed after my TBI, except that I’m always at home and we don’t go out to eat as much anymore.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My wife, Donna, has always been my main caregiver. She was with me from the very beginning of my brain injury. Her first acts of caregiving for me were to call 9-1-1 before I slipped into a coma and to advocate for me in the hospitals. Survivors need to realize how heroic their caregivers usually are, how devoted caregivers are to caring for their survivors, how caregivers’ lives have also been severely disrupted – in these cases by brain injury, and how caregivers are often frightened by their survivors’ brain injuries and shocked by the changes to their survivors’ lives. Donna is always using her experiences and knowledge to help other caregivers with what is often an overwhelming responsibility. Donna has published an award-winning memoir (Prisoners Without Bars: A Caregiver’s Tale), which began as daily updates for family and friends around the country. In her updates, she discussed my progress or lack of progress for the day. Later, Donna wrote down what happened in a series of essays to have a record for me. About a year after my hospitalization, she began to read her essays to me. I was shocked by her horrific experience and convinced her to write a book. She did, and a publisher (WriteLife) was interested in her caregiver’s perspective on brain injury. (You can listen to the book trailer below.)

18. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now

In ten years, I expect to continue to focus on the lives of family and friends, continue to learn about and explain science to the public, continue to discuss brain injury with other survivors and with caregivers, continue to help the public understand brain injury, and continue to make Donna’s life as easy as possible.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other survivors with your specific kind of brain injury.

Years after my TBI, I gained a perspective that helped me. It’s typical to blame your disability when it takes far longer to accomplish something than you think it should or when you can’t do something you think you should. What helps me is to realize the body is doing the best it can. This minor change of attitude has ended much of my frustration of feeling inadequate. So go easy on yourself.

20. What advice would you offer to other brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

I can’t emphasize enough the importance of surrounding yourself with positive people. Such people have had a crucial and beneficial effect on my self-esteem. For example, Donna has not only been my caregiver, but she is also my cheerleader. I had an excellent neurologist for years, but then we moved across the country. I found a new neurologist, but Donna and I didn’t feel any positivity from him, so we never returned. Likewise, if a doctor or therapist tells you you can’t do something, and it’s only his or her opinion and is not based experience or data, you may want to find someone else. It’s important for you too to have a positive attitude. At the very least, consider that you survived! Your positive attitude will affect others, especially your caregiver, who is often overwhelmed and who will not be further burdened by your feeling sorry for yourself.

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SURVIVORS SPEAK OUT! Sandee Rodriguez

 

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Sandee Rodriguez

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1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Sandee Rodriguez

  1. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Ypsilanti, Michigan, USA

  1. On what date did you have your brain injury? At what age?

January 4, 1995     I was 24.

  1. How did your brain injury occur?car accident R-2

Nasty car accident

  1. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Immediately. I was unconscious and paralyzed.

  1. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I was airlifted to the hospital of the University of Michigan.

  1. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

Yes. Two weeks.

  1. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

I was in outpatient rehab for seven hours a day at Med Rehab in Ann Arbor, Michigan. I had physical, occupational, speech, talk, and recreational therapies. I also had retrograde amnesia. (At 24, I woke up with my past erased.)

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  1. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your brain injury
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I had problems with all of the examples listed.

  1. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

This question has no easy or short answer.

  1. What do you miss the most from your pre-brain-injury life?

My pre-injury life is still a blank mostly.

  1. What do you enjoy most in your post-brain-injury life?

I appreciate the experiences I may not have had if my TBI (traumatic brain injury) had never happened. It’s different every day.

  1. What do you like least about your brain injury?

Having it. It stopped the life I was creating at a time people become fully realized adults. 

  1. Has anything helped you to accept your brain injury?

I have been helped by my family and by the tenacity I have.

  1. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Other people have had issues with my brain injury. Those people are no longer in my life.

  1. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

I have no active social life.

  1. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

I am my own caregiver. My husband helps with what I ask. My mom and stepdad and my aunt were my caregivers in the beginning.

  1. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?Sandee Rodriguez & Book_n

The musical I wrote about my life with a TBI will be on Broadway by then.

  1. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other survivors with your specific kind of brain injury.

(I don’t understand this question due to some aphasia I have now.)

  1. What advice would you offer to other brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Carpe diem (seize the day) and be easy on yourself. Meet one challenge at a time.

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Survivors SPEAK OUT! Rob Baugh

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Rob Baugh

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Home: Clarksville, Indiana, USA     Email: Rob.Baugh@outlook.com  

3. On what date did you have your brain injury? At what age?

Date: July 21, 2020     Age: 45

4. How did your brain injury occur?

I knocked myself out opening a screen door. I suffered a 3-inch laceration to my skull, which required five stitches.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Immediately. The after-effects began right away, and we knew I needed medical treatment.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I went to the Emergency Room of the hospital. They put five staples into my head and did a CAT scan (CT or CAT = computed tomography) and X-rays.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

No

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

I did speech and cognitive (outpatient) therapies.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your brain injury
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I have personality changes. (I don’t pick up on sarcasm very well.) I have had a headache since the day I hit my head, and it never goes away. I also have anxiety, depression, memory issues, and stress.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

In some ways, my life is better, but it’s also worse. I have become more of a home-body. I don’t like loud noises and crowds. So being at home is my safe place. I still mourn my old self. But I have also made so many friends since my brain injury that it is kind of a blessing in that fact.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-brain-injury life?

I used to sing and play piano at church, but I can’t do that anymore because of the stress of being in front of people.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-brain-injury life?

I enjoy doing the brain-injury podcast that I started to help spread awareness and give a platform to other survivors to use to tell their stories.

13. What do you like least about your brain injury?

I dislike my constant pain and my memory issues. 

14. Has anything helped you to accept your brain injury?

I think being in a brain-injury support group and learning that I am not alone in this journey have helped me the most.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

My brain injury has caused more stress on my wife. She misses the old me, and she does have to carry much more of the load than she should have to. She doesn’t complain about having to do more, but I know it has to be very stressful for her.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Yes, it has. I don’t do a lot of things outside my home. I don’t visit people like I want to or get to do things that involve big crowds.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My wife and I do understand what it takes. I call all caregivers “unsung heroes.”

18. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I hope in ten years that I will have grown my platform so big that everyone who hears my name will think “brain injury” and will know what a brain injury is. I am a big advocate for survivors, and I want to educate as many people as I can.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other survivors with your specific kind of brain injury.

What I wish I would have done from day one is to get myself into a support group. My having a support group has helped me so much. It took me almost three years to join one. I felt like I was too weak to be joining a support group, but being part of a support group is totally necessary for survivors – and caregivers as well.

20. What advice would you offer to other brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Surround yourself with positive people. Understand that the people you felt like you could count on when life gets tough will more than likely disappoint you. Don’t give into that or feel bad for relationships lost. You cannot heal if you are swimming in a toxic negative environment. 

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Survivors SPEAK OUT! Mike Gephart


Survivors SPEAK OUT! Mike Gephart

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Mike Gephart

 

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Mike Gephart

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country)

Oshkosh, Wisconsin, USA

-Email (optional)

geppyonbass@gmail.com

3. On what date did you have your brain injury? At what age?

My brain injury happened on March 12, 2014. I was 40 years old.

4. How did your brain injury occur?

I was heading home from work on a 2-lane 55-mph county highway. As I approached an intersection, there was a man waiting in the oncoming lane with his left blinker on. He was struck from behind at 61 mph by an inattentive driver. The man waiting to turn was killed instantly. So less than a second later, I had a 54-mph head-on collision with a dead man (he was pronounced dead at the scene of the accident). car acciddent R

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Another person instantly realized I had a major problem.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

Twice, on the way to the ER (Emergency Room of a hospital, the EMS (Emergency Medical Service) paramedics got my heart beating. By the time my (now “ex”) wife got there to identify my body, I’d been put on machines. I was in a medically induced coma for nine days, and I was incognizant for 14 more days. After those 23 days, I heard the words “traumatic brain injury,” which described my biggest problem. 

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

Yes. I was in a medically induced coma. Of the nine days that I was comatose, two were spent trying to get me out of the coma.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?Cognitive Rehab 8-85260_ms-health-cognitive-rehabilitation-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-cartoon

I was in rehab at the hospital for a week after regaining cognizance. Then I went home and was given physical, speech, and occupational therapies by a home service. Once I could walk with crutches, I had outpatient therapy for another four months.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your brain injury
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I had problems with balance and executive functions. My disability today is basically all about my executive functioning. I had third-party disability insurance through an employer. Because my injuries happened on my way home from work, they got a lawyer to get me on SSDI ASAP (Social Security Disability Insurance; as soon as possible). Because of my executive functioning, “ASAP” meant five years. 

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

I choose not to dwell on all the “bad” things that happened because of my accident. In my 1st or 2nd night of cognizance, crying in my bed alone at 3 am, I had a panic attack about everything that had occurred – and was going to happen. It was at this moment that I heard an internal voice say to me: Mike, bad things happened and will continue to happen far more than anything good.

*Energy you waste fearing Bad is energy you steal from loving Good. (I call that advice “Themandment.” And every one of the 10 commandments that Moses only had to climb a mountain lie safely under the umbrella of Themandment.)

So how has my life changed? I was blessed with clarity and the ability to reinvent my identity in and my understanding of this plane of existence.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-brain-injury life?

Daughters RI miss being in a family unit with my daughters.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-brain-injury life?

I’m blessed to know from experience what will happen with my soul when my body dies again.

13. What do you like least about your brain injury?

I don’t like having to acknowledge my brain injury when it reminds me of why I can’t and shouldn’t try being what I was. 

14. Has anything helped you to accept your brain injury?

Themandment helps me several times daily. 

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

The relationship with my ex-wife after the accident can’t even be called a relationship.

I came back a new man, and relationships, with what I call “1st Reality Sufferers,” are difficult because of my 2nd perspective. 

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

My social life has changed. I used to be a local rock star with a day job who went where he wanted and felt comfortable. Now, I don’t feel comfortable in many places, I have fewer friends, and I gig far less. 

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My mother has power of attorney for me, and she is my emergency contact.  Early on, my in-laws watched over me while my (now “ex”) wife went back to work. 

18. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I don’t plan further than a month yet. My world changed in less than a second. So living in the moment is paramount. Live in the Moment OIP

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other survivors with your specific kind of brain injury.

Themandment: Energy wasted fearing bad is energy stolen from loving good. 

That one passage is a notion I wish I could have had in my 20s. Before my accident, I could spend a day worrying about things that might happen. It hurts to think back to all of the things I didn’t take the time to love and feel blessed to have.

One piece of advice a TBI mentor gave me. 

He said: “You didn’t unlearn anything in your accident. 

But you need to reinvent a new way to do everything! … with 40 years of experience.” 

20. What advice would you offer to other brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

I suggest three things: 

  1. Themandment
  2. Reinvent new neuro-pathways.

Relearning how the old ones worked is pointless. 

  1. Unconscious bodily functions! 

Focus on things like making it to the toilet on time. 

The reason newborns and the elderly wear diapers is because of brand new or deteriorating neuropathways. 

Don’t wait for your primary doctor to tell you about it.

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SO, WHADDYA THINK? . . . . About Faulty Filters After Brain Injury

SO, WHADDYA THINK? . . . . About Faulty Filters After Brain Injury

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Donna O’Donnell Figurski

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After a brain injury, many survivors may experience an extreme behavioral, emotional, or personality change. This can be a real problem with keeping friendships. For example, a person who was once the life of the party and can no longer party for any number of reasons—overstimulation, for one—is not that fun to be around. Lack of filters can be another problem.

We all use filters to control what comes from our brains and out of our mouths, and we don’t always say exactly what is on our minds for fear of offending someone. However, some survivors have diminished control over their filters and blurt out whatever they are thinking, possibly offending their friends, who then keep their distance. So essentially, the survivor is pushing away friends without really meaning to.

Sometimes anger and resentment, and perhaps perseveration about the injury—nonstop talk about the injury, can alienate friends because the friends just don’t get it. Because brain injury has damaged parts of their brains, brain-injured survivors are usually not the same person they were before their injury. After all, they’ve looked death in the face and pushed it aside.

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SO, WHADDYA THINK? . . . . ABOUT INVISIBLE BRAIN INJURY

So, Whaddya Think? About Invisible Brain Injury

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Invisible Brain Injury comes with a whole set of problems. Because the survivor looks “normal,” their friends, family, and strangers often think they are faking their problems––neuro fatigue, memory loss, lack of organization, and other cognitive deficits.

My husband, David’s, brain injury is obviously visible, so he doesn’t run into issues where people doubt his injury. But for those survivors whose injury is “all in their brain” and not easily seen or realized by the general public or family and friends, major problems may arise. Folks too often believe that a brain injury should be healed in weeks or months, just like a broken bone. But the fact is that brain injury takes a lifetime of recovery.

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Caregivers SPEAK OUT! . . . Norma Myers ~ Author, Advocate, & Mom

Caregivers SPEAK OUT! Norma Myers ~ Author, Advocate, & Mom

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1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Norma Myers

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email? (optional)

Salem, Virginia, USA

3. What is the brain-injury survivor’s relationship to you? How old was the survivor when he/she had the brain injury? What caused your survivor’s brain injury?

Steven was 22 years old. He was involved in a car crash with his brother Aaron. Aaron didn’t survive the accident. Aaron was 26 years old

4. On what date did you begin care for your brain-injury survivor?

August 13, 2012

Were you the main caregiver?

I resigned from my career with Advance Auto and went to Shepherd Center in Atlanta, Georgia, with Steven, but I had complete support from my husband, Carlan. He drove back and forth from Salem to Atlanta to provide support.

Are you now?

Steven lives independently.

How old were you when you began care?

47 years old

5. Were you caring for anyone else at that time (e.g., children, parents, etc.)?

No

6. Were you employed at the time of your survivor’s brain injury? If so, were you able to continue working?

I was employed, but we choose for me to resign so that I could be Steven’s primary caregiver. I returned to the workforce 2.5 years ago – big accomplishment!

7. Did you have any help? If so, what kind and for how long?

I had my husband’s support. We also had offers of help from family and friends. We also received financial support from family and friends through fundraisers.

8. When did your support of the survivor begin (e.g., immediately – in the hospital; when the survivor returned home; etc.)?

Steven was at Carilion Roanoke Memorial Hospital for a month before being transported to Shepherd Center in Atlanta, Georgia.

9. Was your survivor in a coma? If so, what did you do during that time?

Steven was in a medically induced coma. He had a craniectomy (actually, the first of two). (A craniectomy is the surgical removal of a portion of the skull.) We sat by his bedside, and we also planned a life-celebration for his brother Aaron.

10. Did your survivor have rehab? If so, what kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient and/or outpatient and occupational, physical, speech, and/or other)? How long was the rehab? Where were you when your survivor was getting therapy?

Steven received every discipline of therapy available at the Shepherd Center and when he returned home to Virginia. We spent two months at the Shepherd Center for Rehab –

one month, inpatient; second month, outpatient. I spent time learning everything possible about Steven’s rehab needs for when we returned home.

11. What problems or disabilities of your brain-injury survivor required your care, if any?

Getting Steven to his appointments. Making sure we stayed on top of every available resource, including grants, gifts, and programs that would help Steven with his recovery.

12. How has your life changed since you became a caregiver? Is it better? Is it worse?

That is a loaded question. It has changed in many ways, such as I feel like I was there for Steven when he needed me, which I am thankful I was able to do so. We have experienced “firsts” all over again, such as waiting for Steven to speak his first word, to take his first step, and to become independent all over again. It has made me a stronger person because not only have I experienced the death of my first-born son, but I have also experienced what it’s like to watch my other son learn how to do life all over again.

13. What do you miss the most from pre-brain-injury life?

Witnessing my sons’ enjoying being brothers. I miss being a mother to both of my sons. I also think about what Aaron’s life would look like at every stage of his life if he had survived and what Steven’s life would look like without a traumatic brain injury (Ambiguous Loss).

14. What do you enjoy most in post-brain-injury life?

Celebrating Steven’s victories in life. Helping other families navigate through their journey of TBI (traumatic brain injury).

15. What do you like least about brain injury?

There is no cure, and it’s an invisible disease. I also wish that when people are curious about what happened to Steven, they would ask instead of stare … Steven is fully comfortable in discussing his accident.

16. Has anything helped you to accept your survivor’s brain injury?

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Steven’s motto helps me put things into perspective … ”Deficits do not define him.” He is an overcomer.

17. Has your survivor’s injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

We rearrange life to be available to Steven should he need us if he has a seizure. Currently, with no license due to seizures, we make sure he is where he needs to be all while balancing our careers. We make it work as a family!

18. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Of course! As parents, we will always put our son’s needs first.

19. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I have no idea! We can only take one day – actually one minute – at a time, always trying to better ourselves and be thankful that, while this journey isn’t what we planned for our lives, it’s what God gave us. And we will do the very best we can day by day to honor Him.

20. What advice would you offer other caregivers of brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

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Every brain injury is different, so please don’t do the comparison game. Take one day at a time. Tap into every resource available to you, and, trust me, there are so many out there. You are not alone – there is no shame in asking for help! I will do anything for my fellow brain injury survivors and their families. I am here to offer a word of encouragement through my blogs and volunteer work. Don’t give up!

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Survivors SPEAK OUT! Jordan Fallert

Survivors SPEAK OUT!     Jordan Fallert

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1. What is your name? (last name optional)

My name is Jordan Fallert.

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

I live in St. Louis, Missouri, USA.

3. On what date did you have your brain injury? At what age?

I got my brain injury on February 5th, 2021. I was 23 years old.

4. How did your brain injury occur?

I got my TBI (traumatic brain injury) from a car crash around 5:30 on a Friday. I had just left work to go home to study for a test for my master’s degree. Studying

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

What saved my life was that a fire truck had responded to a fire on that same road. They were told their backup was no longer needed. Their captain (who was in an SUV, not the fire truck) saw the crash happen. I was unconscious on impact, and they had to use the “Jaws of Life” to get me out of the car. After I was rescued, they took me straight to the hospital to have emergency surgery. I was in a coma for six weeks. I slowly gained consciousness and became aware pretty quickly that I was in the hospital, but I had no idea why. That was my biggest indication that something was wrong. Also, I couldn’t walk, and I had extreme right-side weakness.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

After I was rescued from my car and in the ambulance, the firemen realized very quickly I was having extreme difficulty breathing. I was hit on a road that had a speed limit of 45 mph. I was turning onto the road and going about 12 mph, and the other driver was speeding and going over 60 mph. Even though I was going so slowly, the force of the impact caused my diaphragm to rupture, my lungs to push on my stomach, and my stomach to push on my heart. Once I was at the hospital, I was immediately taken to the trauma floor. I was in surgery for about six hours.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

I was in a self-induced coma for about six weeks.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

Yes. I did a lot of rehab. I was in the hospital for about four months. As soon as I was conscious, they began putting me into rehab. I did speech, occupational, and physical therapies. After I was released from the hospital, I stayed with my mom in a house on the hospital campus and did intense outpatient therapy. And when I came home, I did more therapies at a hospital near me. It’s difficult to say how long I was in rehab, but I would guess about nine months.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your brain injury
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My vision is one of my biggest problems so far. I go to a neuro-ophthalmologist to help combat my double vision. I have had some personality changes that my mom would probably agree with. But I would consider a lot of these “personality changes” to be normal for a very intelligent 24-year-old who had the whole world going for her. Someone else’s actions took that away. I also lost my independence.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

My life has changed, but I wouldn’t say it’s better or worse; it’s just different. (I personally have really tried my best to think like that.) My life has changed in that I have to rely on people a lot more than I am comfortable with. I got a car for my 16th birthday (almost ten years ago), so I’ve always been able to go places and do things without having to ask other people for rides and things like that. It feels like I was knocked down a peg or two.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-brain-injury life?

This is a bit of a complicated question for me. My life was in such a weird place when my crash happened. Courses all went online because of COVID. I had to come home–exactly from my undergrad degree. I continued with a job where I had my internship at, but I hardly saw my friends because of COVID. They were all in different cities in the US, and we couldn’t really travel. So I guess what I really miss are my college years because those are the most recent and foremost in my mind. Because of the accident, I have retrograde amnesia. So I don’t remember anything from about two years before.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-brain-injury life?

Jordan Fallert & CavapooBefore my accident, I was on a breeder list to get a cavapoo puppy. I was sixth on the list, and a litter was born in May 2021. Some people skipped on this litter of two (the Tom and Jerry litter), so I was able to have my choice. I chose Tom and renamed him Brew. He has been my saving grace after my brain injury. He’s my best friend and constant companion. I don’t know what I’d do without him.

13. What do you like least about your brain injury?

I don’t like feeling weak. This right-side weakness has been an uphill battle to deal with. But it’s getting better.

14. Has anything helped you to accept your brain injury?

My parents have really been my saving grace. They have never given up on me and never make me feel like I am limited. If I want to do something, they encourage me and help me do it.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

I continue to live with my parents since my brain injury. I was living with them before due to COVID. My parents have been nothing but great. But I have had a lot of friendships wither and decay, which has been hard in and of itself.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Yes and no. I didn’t have a social life before the accident because of COVID. After the crash and when I came home, I had some friends come see me at my house, but they slowly drifted away. It’s hard when you can’t drive, so you are always having to ask others to drive up to see you or drive you somewhere.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My main caregivers are my mom and my dad. I do not understand–and hope to never understand–what it takes to be a caregiver. I just know that they are the strongest individuals I know.

18. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

My plans are very fluid and always changing. I recently (less than a month ago) got my license, and last week, I was able to buy my own car. With these changes, my attitude and outlook have drastically improved. I feel like I can conquer the world if I have this outlook. A Traumatic Brain Injury won’t keep me down and will not limit me. I won’t let it!    R

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other survivors with your specific kind of brain injury.

I was always angry that my brain couldn’t heal faster, but my mom kept reminding me that it’s not like a broken bone. It’s an organ that controls your entire body, so give it time to heal.

20. What advice would you offer to other brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Don’t take your anger out on your caregiver(s). They want to help you get your life back. Hug everyone tighter, and tell them you love them. A brain injury will only limit you if you let it.

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Survivors SPEAK OUT! Danielle Skranak

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Danielle Skranak

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1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Danielle Skranak

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Washington DC, USA

3. On what date did you have your brain injury? At what age?

October 26, 2014     I was 19.

4. How did your brain injury occur?

I fell during Army Basic Training.

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It was witnessed by my entire company.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I did not receive any emergency treatment.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

No

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

I did not attend rehab or have any other outpatient therapy.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your brain injury
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I had long-term and short-term memory loss, vertigo, and aphasia.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

It’s neither better nor worse, just different. It made me become more independent, I suppose.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-brain-injury life?

Easily remembering things and my memories 

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-brain-injury life?

Speaking about my injury and meeting other survivors 

13. What do you like least about your brain injury?

remember-note-wqq-hiI dislike how easily I forget stuff and having to constantly ensure I’m eating right – so my brain is working at its optimal capacity.

14. Has anything helped you to accept your brain injury?

Time, really. Nothing else has contributed. 

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

I was more easily manipulated. I was involved in a domestically violent relationship that did not end well.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?Danielle Skranak 2 Ms Gilbert 051621

I used to easily trust people because so many wanted to help me, but I’ve since learned that you cannot trust everybody. That was a hard lesson for me to learn. 

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

N/A

18. What are your plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I hope to be fully recovered and to help those who need help. Perhaps in the next few years, I will have earned my Juris doctorate.

Ra3aca9d8126fdc212dc543ced6b1071219. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other survivors with your specific kind of brain injury.

I wish I would’ve known early on that not everyone’s recovery is the same. Some are longer; some, shorter. There’s no magic pill you can take to make recovery shorter. 

20. What advice would you offer to other brain-injury survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Take everything slowly. It’s not a sprint to recover.

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Another Fork in the Road ~~~ Do You Know Someone with a Brain Injury? I Do!

Do You Know Someone with a Brain Injury? I Do!
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Chances are you know someone who has suffered a traumatic brain injury (TBI.) More than 1.7 million Americans each year sustain a brain injury.  I personally know five people who are living with some form of TBI. In fact, I’m living with one.

My husband, David, had his brain injury in 2005. A professor friend of ours from Brigham Young University has one. So do my nephew, an actor/director friend from my local community theater, and the husband of my friend, Judy.

A brain injury can occur in the blink of an eye. Brain injury is not discriminating. It cares not about color, race, or creed. It can happen to a child or an octogenarian and everyone in between. A child may fall off his bike or off her swing.  A teenager may meet up with a TBI on the soccer or football field or a gymnastic mat. Car and motorcycle accidents are common causes of traumatic brain injuries. An assault in a dark alley or domestic abuse in your home can result in brain injury too. One can even have a traumatic brain injury while exercising (e.g., while doing chin ups in the wee hours of the morning after doing Tai Chi while listening to Deuter or some other new age CD). David did!

Like snowflakes, no two brain injuries are the same. Each survivor is different too and each method of healing is unique to the person who is struggling to regain his or her former life. With a lot of hard work, patience, and persistence many survivors can enjoy a “new normal” life.

Check out this article, Facts About Traumatic Brain Injury, for more information.

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