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Survivors SPEAK OUT! Bart Boughner

SPEAK OUT! – Bart Boughner

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

Bart Boughner - TBI Survivor

Bart Boughner – TBI Survivor

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Bart Boughner

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

St. Williams, Ontario, Canada

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

37

4. How did your TBI occur?

I fell about 5 feet off a step ladder at work, striking my head on the concrete foundation.  It happened ~45 minutes before the end of the day…the day before my daughter’s 8th birthday.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

The seriousness of my fall was realized about a half hour later. My leg couldn’t hold me, and I had blood coming from my ear and cuts on my wrist.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I was in the local hospital for about five hours. They didn’t ship me earlier to a trauma center because they didn’t think I would make the trip. They took a wait-and-see approach, since the bleeds didn’t change too much. I was in the ICU (Intensive Care Unit) for 1 week, and then I was in the Step Down Unit for another week. I was then moved back to my local hospital for 3 more weeks.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

No

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)?

I had outpatient rehab for 1 year for physical, occupational, and speech therapies, then again 2 years after I was hospitalized.

How long were you in rehab?

Just over 1 year

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

Well now, I have an issue with short-term memory;  I severed my olfactory nerve, affecting my senses of smell and taste; I experience exhaustion; I have a problem with sleep; and I have no tolerance.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

For 11 1\2 years, my life was worse to the point that I gave up. I went into a hole and rarely went out. My marriage went down hill fast, since we couldn’t communicate. My marriage ended September 16, 2013. I lost so many friends and family, some from my own choice. I found it hard to trust.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

My energy and my love of life

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

Now I have my own independence. My kids chose to live with me. I’m letting go of the past and now living now.

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

Overwhelming situations, severe headaches, lack of patience

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

The first neuro doctor told me straight out I would be different. Also my new independence is helping me accept my TBI.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

My injury destroyed everything, but eventually my kids had the chance to know me for myself without people telling them things. It’s the best thing that happened.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Yes, I became reclusive and couldn’t tolerate too many people at once. Now I’m better.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

I am my own caregiver. Yes, I do understand about caregivers.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I’m building on my bucket list. I plan to continue enjoying life and laughing with my kids. Soon I will be 50. What I’ll be doing in 10 years is hard to say. I live life day-to-day.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

Speak for yourself, instead of letting others do it for you. Realize that the past is the past. Nothing can bring it back. Learn to laugh again and not to be so frustrated when you can’t accomplish things. Find support groups (e.g., Facebook) early.

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Be strong. Keep your voice, and let it be known. Never dwell on things – they can put you in a deep, dark place with only a small window of light. Believe in yourself. If friends treat you differently, tell them. If they cannot adjust, then let them go on your terms. LIVE, LOVE, AND LAUGH!!!!!!!!

Bart Boughner - TBI Survivor with his children

Bart Boughner – TBI Survivor with his children

 

Thank you, Bart, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Bart.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Jayson Phillips

SPEAK OUT! – Jayson Phillips

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

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Jayson Phillips

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Jayson Phillips

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Houston, Texas, USA

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

2009   I was 17.

4. How did your TBI occur?

My head was run over by a car.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Immediately

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

A bone flap was removed, and I had brain surgery.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

Yes. About a month

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)?

Yes. I had physical, occupational, and speech therapies.

How long were you in rehab?

I was in and out of therapy, but altogether I had therapy over a year.

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Jayson Phillips – Miraclekid – lucky to be alive

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

Left-side weakness, irritation, depression, left neglect

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

I have a new perspective on life, and I don’t take anything for granted anymore.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

Skateboarding

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

My new attitude and the support of friends

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

My physical limitations

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

I’ve been helped by personal-development videos, music, poetry, and writing.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Yes. It has strengthened my relationship with my mom and dad.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

No

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My mother and grandmother are my main caregivers. Yes, I understand what they do.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I hope to have a large business. I also hope to contribute my time towards helping TBI survivors and people in general better their lives. In ten years, I expect to be retired, to be living on my own, and to be going to different places to speak about TBI awareness.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

No matter what challenges or adversities you may come across, keep a useful and positive attitude. Always find the positives in any situation.

Jayson Phillips

Jayson Phillips

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Attitude is everything. It can be the difference between a healthy, speedy recovery and a stressful, slow recovery.

 

Thank you, Jayson, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Jayson.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

Survivors SPEAK OUT! David Villarreal

SPEAK OUT! – David Villarreal

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

David Villarreal

David Villarreal

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

David Villarreal

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Temple, Texas, USA

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

1st and 2nd – 2012 (age 50), 3rd – 2013 (age 51), and 4th – 2014 (age 52)

4. How did your TBI occur?

I’m not sure…I really don’t remember.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

It was realized when I hit the floor and did the best I could do to call for help.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

A coworker called 9-1-1. I was rushed to the Emergency Room and given some kind of med that broke up the clot (note: possibly tissue plasminogen activator, tPA) and saved my life.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

No

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

Yes. I had physical therapy and occupational therapy for 6 months.

It wasn’t until my 3rd stroke that I finally got help. It was from the Central Texas VA (Veteran’s Administration) in Temple, Texas. They have made everything possible for me. I credit all my progress to them.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

Wow…I have problems with my speech, vision, balance, strength, and control of my bodily functions. I could not eat or drink. I still do not have use of my right side. I am right-handed, so that is a problem. I have to learn to do everything again with my left hand.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

Oh my goodness! My life has changed so much. I was a studio musician before all of this happened. I’ve heard many of the CDs that I am on. I went from playing several instruments to not being able to play any. That led to some very, very deep depression.

11.What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

My musician life

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?Villarreal, David Handcycle

That I now race a handcycle

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

That I get tired too fast

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

I got up one day and remembered I was a Marine. I decided to do what Marines do best, and that is save others. So now, I ride this handcycle with the one hand that works to let other stroke survivors know we can still have a good, normal life.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Well, after my first stroke, my wife of 10 months filed for divorce three days after I had it. I met my current wife a year later – after my 3rd stroke. She was my therapist. We got married about a month ago.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

For the longest time, I would not leave my home. I didn’t want anyone to see me like this. Now I go out more often, but I’m not really at ease with it.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

I have been taking care of myself from the start. Now I am having a very hard time allowing my wife to do anything for me. She wants to help me so badly, but I have a hard time letting go.

18. What are your future plans?

I really don’t know.

    What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I hope to be helping stroke survivors.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

Ok, it happened (the stroke). Get over it…Cry…Get mad…OK, now that is out of the way…Get to work, and work harder than you have ever worked. It will be worth it if you can do it. Life is so good when you get through it all.

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

DON’T GIVE UP. YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO. Don’t let anyone tell you different. I have been told I am supposed to be dead…I am supposed to be paralyzed from my neck down. BY THE GRACE OF GOD I AM NOT!!!!!!!!

David Villarreal - 1st of 4 strokes (Not expected to survive) He DID!

David Villarreal – 1st of 4 strokes (Not expected to survive.) He DID!

 

Thank you, David, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of David.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Melissa Cronin

SPEAK OUT! – Melissa Cronin

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

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Melissa Cronin

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Melissa Cronin

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

South Burlington, Vermont, USA

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

Age 36

4. How did your TBI occur?

In 2003, when visiting the Santa Monica Farmers’ Market, an elderly driver confused the gas pedal for the brake and sped through the market. I was thrown forward, and my head hit the pavement. The force of the impact resulted in a ruptured spleen and multiple fractures, including my pelvis.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Fourteen months after the accident, when I returned to part-time work as a public health nurse, I experienced increased fatigue, difficulty concentrating, and multitasking. My boss threatened to fire me, so I resigned and attempted part-time work in a pediatrician’s office (bad idea for someone with a TBI), but I struggled to keep up in a fast-paced environment. In May 2006, I finally saw a neuropsychiatrist for testing, and the results proved to be consistent with a TBI.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I did not have emergency treatment for a TBI. The CT (computerized tomography, also known as “CAT”) scans showed no bleeding (typical for a “mild” TBI). I did have emergency surgery, though, to remove my ruptured spleen.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

No

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

I had physical and occupational therapy at Cedars Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles to help regain muscle mass and strength after being hospitalized for nearly one month. I would be in a wheelchair for four months while my fractures healed, so rehab taught me ways to navigate through my day.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

Fatigue, difficulty multitasking and concentrating, occasional irritability, depression; and difficulty processing verbal, auditory, and visual information

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

My life is both better and worse. It’s better because my TBI, and other injuries, opened up a path for me to writing. And my husband, whom I met only three weeks prior to the accident, has been my strongest support. It’s worse because I eventually had to give up my 20-year nursing career.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

Running and skiing, and the babies I cared for in the neonatal intensive care unit where I worked before my injury

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

Writing, playing the Irish fiddle, going for walks, and, of course, my husband’s unwavering support

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

I’m much slower at getting things done. I often sleep in until 9:30 or 10:00 am, and I feel as if I’ve wasted much of the day. Also, I often fail to understand concepts others seem to grasp so easily.

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

I’ve been helped by the neuropsychiatrist who diagnosed me with a TBI and by the cognitive therapist who treated me. Also, my therapist – he continually reminds me that my brain has been rewired.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Definitely my home life has been affected. I rely on my husband to do much of the “heavy” lifting, like cooking, grocery shopping, and driving, because I am easily distracted.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Absolutely. I do not socialize as much as I did before my injury because it doesn’t take much for me to become fatigued.

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“Invisible Bruise” Chicken Soup for the Soul: Recovering from Traumatic Brain Injuries. June 2014

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

I am my own main caregiver, though my husband does much of the cooking. I do not know what it takes to be a caregiver, though my father is living with Alzheimer’s, and I help out as much as I can.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

Writing and traveling

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

I wish I understood much earlier the truth about TBIs before I re-entered the workplace and had to face the threat of being fired. For example, I wish someone had warned me that I might have actually suffered a TBI, and that the initial presentation of milder injuries does not mean the consequences are mild.

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Persevere. Try not to compare yourself to non-brain injured individuals – you’ll only get frustrated. Pay attention to what your body and brain are telling you, and give yourself permission to take naps. Exercise your brain, in moderation, by doing crossword puzzles or learning a new skill. Whatever you accomplish, even if it’s getting out of bed by 7:00 am, is an accomplishment.

Melissa is the author of “Invisible Bruise,” published in Chicken Soup for the Soul: Recovering from Traumatic Brain Injuries.

Melissa playing fiddle

Melissa Cronin with her fiddle

To learn more about Melissa, please visit her website/blog at Melissa Cronin.

 

Thank you, Melissa, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Melissa.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

Survivors SPEAK OUT! . . . . . . . . . . Lisa Parker McGreggor

SPEAK OUT! – Lisa Parker McGreggor

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

McGreggor, Lisa Parker1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Lisa Parker McGreggor

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Tampa Bay, Florida, USA    parkermcgreggor@yahoo.com

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

July 24, 2000     I was 15 – only two weeks shy of 16.

4. How did your TBI occur?

Car accident

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

When I didn’t get up at the scene

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I had a G (gastrostomy) peg (feeding tube). My spleen was removed.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

Yes. I was in a coma for three months.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

Yes. I had rehab at the hospital for six months. Afterwards, I was still going, but insurance would only pay every three months.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I have a problem with my balance. My mood is an issue. My right arm is drawn up.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

My life may be better, but it’s lonelier.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

My freedom

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

Food

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

The fact that it exists

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

Reality

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Yes. It made me reliant on my parents. I hardly ever go out, so I don’t have a boyfriend.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Most of my friends left.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My mom is my main caregiver. Yes, I understand what it takes.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I don’t have any plans.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

You can never “quit.”

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Be strong.

Enjoy the ride. Life is shorter than you think!McGreggor, Lisa Parker 2

Thank you, Lisa, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Lisa.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Luke R. Hostetler

SPEAK OUT! – Luke R. Hostetler

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

Use This Hostetler, Luke

Luke R. Hostetler

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Luke R. Hostetler

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Woodburn, Indiana, USA     Lrhostetler@gmail.com

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

September 10, 2010     Age 26

4. How did your TBI occur?

I fell down stairs.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Friends looked for me when they realized I was absent from the party for too long. The doctors diagnosed the TBI!

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I had a tracheotomy, and a feeding tube was inserted. My jaw was wired shut. 😦

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

I think I was, but I don’t think it was for an extended period of time.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)? How long were you in rehab?

I had rehab (occupational therapy, physical therapy, and speech therapy – maybe others), both as an inpatient and an outpatient. Rehab was maybe two years?

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

My right optic nerve is damaged. I have a problem with short-term memory. 😦

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

I’ve met many new people, so that’s a very good thing!

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

I miss my occupation and driving!

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

A new friend whom I met because of my TBI. 🙂

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

My short-term-memory is junk. 😦

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

My new friend. She also has a TBI!

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Home life: At 30 years old, I still live with my mom, and I depend on others for most everyday activities.

Relationships: I’ve made countless new friends. That’s ALL GOOD. 🙂

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

I am much more of a social being.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My Loving Mother, Vicki Rose Hostetler, is my caregiver. I know and understand it’s hard work, and I appreciate that!

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I hope to be able to live independently. I’d like to have had found the love of my life!

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

Patience is a virtue!

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Live your life in stride. Good things come to those who wait. God has a perfect plan. 🙂

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Luke R. Hostetler & Muskie

 

Thank you, Luke, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Luke.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

 

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Kyle Reynolds

SPEAK OUT! – Kyle Reynolds

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

Reynolds, Kyle car1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Kyle Reynolds

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

I suffered a stroke on January 21, 2003. I was 17 years old.

4. How did your TBI occur?

My stroke occurred during a varsity basketball game. (You can watch my stroke occur on my blog, FightStroke.com.)

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

They realized it almost immediately – while I was on the court. A teammate’s parent recognized the early signs of stroke by the facial droop cue.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I was rushed to the Emergency Room, and tPA (tissue plasminogen activator) was introduced directly into an artery, a cutting-edge procedure.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

I was never in a coma, but I remained in the hospital for many weeks.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)?
How long were you in rehab?

I began inpatient rehab within 48 hours of my stroke. My rehab consisted of occupational therapy, physical therapy, and speech therapy. Because of my age and being an athlete in top physical condition, I was fortunate to be able to bounce back relatively quickly. Physically, I progressed pretty well. My first steps were within a few days, but I have always struggled with occupational therapy, particularly with the use of my left hand, wrist, and fingers. Also, because of my age, I had to make a trade-off between focusing on my physical rehabilitation and focusing on my cognitive rehabilitation. After I lost all hope of still receiving a Division I college basketball scholarship, I neglected most parts of my physical rehabilitation and became depressed. Many of my friends and teammates went on to play Division I college basketball, and some went to the NBA (National Basketball Association), including my high school teammate and friend, Kris Humphries.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

Many things changed as a result of the stroke. First, my left side was completely paralyzed. Therefore, I had to learn to do everything all over again. This included learning how to smile again so that my lips appeared symmetrical, learning how to walk again, learning how to enunciate certain vowels and consonants, and learning how to put on my clothes and tie my shoes. Unlike the case for many stroke survivors, these tasks were relatively easy compared to other domains. One of the largest initial challenges that many brain injury patients complain about is the factor of fatigue. I was constantly tired. I could have maybe an hour of stimulation – tops – before needing a nap. Eventually I learned to push the limits of my fatigue. But the next challenges were impulsivity and trouble with attention. Needless to say, I struggled cognitively. I had problems with memory, planning, executive functioning, and left-sided neglect. For these reasons, I could not drive at that time.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

I think most people who have had a near-death experience try to find a reason for it. In my case, I have become a much happier person. Before, I was very narcissistic and self-centered. I was only concerned with my own goals. Having that taken away forces one to reevaluate Life from a different perspective. This calamity has forced me to look outside myself and hopefully be an inspiration to other people.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?Reynolds, Kyle Magazine Cover

What I missed the most about my life prior to my TBI was the ability to play basketball. I was just about to receive a Division I scholarship. Had the TBI not occurred, I would be playing professional basketball in Europe. Since my stroke in 2003, nothing has been able to replace the pleasure I once received from playing basketball.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

The greatest satisfaction I have received since my stroke was the day I graduated from college. I guess you could say I take pleasure in proving people wrong. The doctors said I would never be able to function at that high of a level. Socially, I was impulsive and had a hard time processing social cues, but eventually I adapted.

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

There isn’t one thing that I like least about having a TBI. It all sucks – from the cognitive problems to the physical and emotional ones. There’s no way around it – having a TBI sucks, but we all try to make the best of it.

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

The biggest factor that has helped my personal situation with my TBI was the fact that I was young (17) when it happened. I don’t believe I will ever accept the TBI because they never knew why my carotid artery tore. I was healthy and didn’t deserve it. However, time heals all wounds. I was lucky to have some very amazing people in my life. They helped me get through some tough times.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

Socially, I was impulsive and had a hard time processing social cues, but eventually I adapted. At the time of my injury, I was 17, and all my friends were planning for college. My neurologists said that college wasn’t a feasible goal for someone with such significant brain damage. Thus, I became depressed and socially withdrawn.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

See question 15 for response.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

I never had one. I had to learn to figure things out on my own.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I want to inspire others who have had a stroke or TBI to push the limits of their recovery. I want to raise awareness for stroke and TBI so more dollars will be allocated towards studies that facilitate recovery.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

I would say don’t trust the doctors. You ultimately decide your own fate.

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

The advice I would give to my fellow TBI survivors would be to try to find a balance between continuing your rehabilitation to improve the quality of your life and finding acceptance with your limitations. It is a fine line to walk, and your feelings may change daily.

 

Reynolds, KyleThank you, Kyle, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Kyle.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

Survivors SPEAK OUT! Joey Buchanan

SPEAK OUT! – Joey Buchanan

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

Buchanan, Joey Injuries1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Joey Buchanan

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Flovilla, Georgia, USA     Dekalbfd19@yahoo.com

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

Date of accident – July 18, 2012     Age at the time – 46

4. How did your TBI occur?

We were overhauling at a house fire (which means searching for hidden fire). I was standing against a wall, when a full sheet of sheetrock (4 ft. x 8 ft.) fell from a vaulted ceiling, striking me on top of the head.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

Immediately. I was told that I fell into the wall, then onto the floor. I was asked twice if I was okay.  I don’t remember any of that.  It broke and cut my nose, and I could feel the blood running down my face.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

Nothing major – just a routine X-ray and a cat (CT) scan

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

No

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational and/or physical and/or speech and/or other)?
How long were you in rehab?

Yes – cognitive therapy, emotional therapy, physical therapy, and vestibular therapy.  I am waiting on a driving exam and endocrinology testing.  I am currently in therapy.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I have difficulties with balance, decision-making, and reading and comprehension. I’m more emotional (crying and anxiety). I have headaches, dizziness, and tinnitus. My sorting skills and my ability to multitask (very important for a firefighter) have been affected. I experience depression, fatigue, and pains in my neck, hands, and feet. My motivation is a problem.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

The mental and physical issues have been difficult. I went from working two fire-department jobs, homeschooling our daughter, and building a pool house to spending most of my time in bed, due to fatigue, depression, pain, and lack of motivation. My wife and daughter both say that I am much more easy-going. I tell them, “Well, yes. I am not working 120-plus hours per week.” (LOL)

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?Buchana, Joey & Fire Truck

My other family at the fire department

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

To be able (when I am able) to be home with my daughter, and the chance of starting a new chapter of my life

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

The fatigue, the lack of motivation, and the pain

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

My faith in God and the support of family and friends

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

It has been a mixed bag in my home life. Although I am home, the majority of my time is spent in bed.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Yes. We don’t go to concerts, and we don’t go out to eat. I try to avoid crowds. This is all due to overstimulation and anxiety.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

My wife is my main caregiver. In some respects, I became her caregiver when she became ill in 2005.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I hope to recover as much as possible and to start a group that goes out and assists other first responders when they are injured and have to be home. In 10 years, I would like to be able to travel.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

I want people to know that this injury will take much longer to recover from than they could ever imagine.

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Try to keep emotions and stimulation to a minimum in the beginning – it will help in the long run. Find a support group – they have valuable knowledge.  Doctors are not always as educated on TBI as they need to be. The sooner you can accept the “new normal,” the easier it will be. Don’t ever give up or stop trying. Find an advocate who will help you in your journey.Buchanan, Joey

 

Thank you, Joey, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Joey.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

 

 

 

Survivors SPEAK OUT! DuWayne Hall

SPEAK OUT! – DuWayne Hall

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

 

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DuWayne Hall

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

DuWayne Hall

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Colorado Springs, Colorado, USA    Braindamagedguy@gmail.com

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

August 16, 1992 – I was 32 years old.

4. How did your TBI occur?

It was a single vehicle motorcycle accident. (For complete story see Guest Blog.)

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

As soon as I became aware in the hospital!

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I was on total life support, so they did whatever was necessary for that. My arm was tied around my neck because they expected me to die.

I was not wearing my helmet at the time of the accident. I had my right ear torn off; they sewed it back on. My right cheek was crushed from my shoulder’s smacking my face as I face-planted the road. They put a titanium cheekbone in to fix my face. My right eye was hanging out of its socket; it had to be placed back into my skull. I sustained a closed-head injury. My right frontal lobe and the pons portion of my brain sustained what they refer to as a “contracoup” injury (that is, the brain is damaged exactly opposite to the impact point). They implanted a shunt on the top of my head. I’ve got a metal plate in the top of my head.

I had road rash from being dragged 100 or so feet before the motorcycle stopped sliding. My arm was shattered at the elbow. My collarbone was broken in two places. I had knee surgery.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

I was in a coma 24 days. On the 25th day, my living will was going to become effective, and they were going to unplug me from life support.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational, physical, speech, and/or other)?
How long were you in rehab?

I was in rehab three years. I relearned everything from how to go to the bathroom to how to eat again, talk again, and interact again. I was just like a child relearning how to do everything – dress myself, cook, shower, stand upright, etc.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

As a result of my TBI, I became increasingly more isolated, until Facebook came into the picture about ten years ago. I walk with an uneven gait. I have problems seeing just one of something. I’m partially deaf. My face is partially paralyzed. Over the years, I’ve developed PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) as a result of multiple TBI’s. I get frustrated very easily, but it is perceived as anger by others.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

It became more burdensome and unfulfilled.

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

I miss friends, family, social relationships, and camping. Any exercise is burdensome. Personal relationships ended. I can’t defend myself. I lost my hospital job of 8 years.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

Nothing!

13. What do you like least about your TBI?
It gave me PTSD. Anybody diagnosed with it understands what I am talking about! It is hell!

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

It is hard to define “accept.” I know that it has happened and that I can’t do anything about it. I believe all things happen for a reason, but I cannot find any good being returned because I am disabled. So, if I can help keep one soul from going through the hell I’ve been through these last 24 years, then that would be worth it to me!

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

I have been married two times since my TBI. No lady wants me because I’m broken, not only physically, but also emotionally and mentally.

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

I have no social life! At first, people seemed happy that I did not die. However, after time, I no longer had the number of friends that I had before my accident. The example would be that I receive a get-well card at the hospital with approximately 825 signatures of people wishing me well during recovery. If only 25 percent were sincere, I would have 207 friends. I have two – one who lives out-of-state and one who lives out-of-town. I am constantly lonely and feeling rejected!

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

I don’t have one. I am my own caregiver!

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

I don’t have any plans. I believe that life has ended for me! I am just waiting to die.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

I’m too gullible. Most TBIers are.

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

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DuWayne Hall

Be patient with yourself. Recovery takes a long time!

 

Thank you, DuWayne, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of DuWayne.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

 

Survivors SPEAK OUT! . . . . . . Michelle

SPEAK OUT! – Michelle

by

Donna O’Donnell Figurski

Lawson, Michelle Shell 2

Michelle

1. What is your name? (last name optional)

Michelle

2. Where do you live? (city and/or state and/or country) Email (optional)

Indiana, USA

3. When did you have your TBI? At what age?

February 16, 1999.  I was 16 (my sophomore year in high school).

4. How did your TBI occur?

I was in a vehicle going south. The driver passed a vehicle at a stop sign. He was going 90 mph in a 30 mph zone. An eastbound vehicle T-boned us on my side. I was ejected from the vehicle, thrown 60 ft., and came within inches of a loading dock. I was dead on the scene, and the paramedics had to revive me. In the process, they punctured my vocal cords. I still talk low, and it takes a lot to speak up.

5. When did you (or someone) first realize you had a problem?

I think right away. The doctors actually told my mother that I would pretty much be a vegetable.

6. What kind of emergency treatment, if any, did you have?

I didn’t have to have any surgery.

7. Were you in a coma? If so, how long?

Yes. I was in a coma for 2 1/2 weeks.

8. Did you do rehab? What kind of rehab (i.e., inpatient or outpatient and occupational, physical, speech, and/or other)?
How long were you in rehab?

I had to do a year of speech therapy and physical therapy as an outpatient.

9. What problems or disabilities, if any, resulted from your TBI
(e.g., balance, perception, personality, etc.)?

I have a balance problem and short/long-term memory loss. I have developed fibromyalgia, which the doctor thinks is a result of the accident. I also have arthritis.

10. How has your life changed? Is it better? Is it worse?

Since the age of 2, I wanted to be a police officer or go into the military. I can’t do either because of the memory loss and the risk of getting hit in the head. I had a lot of anger towards the driver for a few years after the accident, but I learned to forgive him. I realized that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes I don’t like having TBI, but I wouldn’t go back and change it. It’s part of who I am today, and God only knows who I would have become if the accident didn’t happen. It may have been worse. I don’t remember who I was before (personality, etc.).

11. What do you miss the most from your pre-TBI life?

Refer to the answer above.

12. What do you enjoy most in your post-TBI life?

Refer to the answer above.

13. What do you like least about your TBI?

My memory loss, the fear of having Alzheimer’s or dementia, and dying before I get old because of having a brain injury.

14. Has anything helped you to accept your TBI?

No. Just about everything that I have had to relearn, I have done on my own.

15. Has your injury affected your home life and relationships and, if so, how?

(No Answer)

16. Has your social life been altered or changed and, if so, how?

Yes. I lost all my friends, but I gained new ones. I tend not to have any close/best friends though. I do wish very badly that I did have a best friend – sometimes it’s hard to accept that I don’t anymore.  I stay to myself, due to my being extremely paranoid about saying something wrong, being put down, or not being accepted.

17. Who is your main caregiver? Do you understand what it takes to be a caregiver?

Mainly myself, but my mother, as well as my husband, helps me on remembering things.

18. What are your future plans? What do you expect/hope to be doing ten years from now?

To have completed college and to be a teacher with my own classroom.

19. Are you able to provide a helpful hint that may have taken you a long time to learn, but which you wished you had known earlier? If so, please state what it is to potentially help other TBI survivors with your specific kind of TBI.

(No answer)

20. What advice would you offer to other TBI survivors? Do you have any other comments that you would like to add?

Lawson, Michelle Shell

Michelle

Be patient, forgive, keep God in your life at all times, and remember to always love. Also NEVER forget how short life can be.

Thank you, Michelle, for taking part in this interview. I hope that your experience will offer some hope, comfort, and inspiration to my readers.

(Disclaimer: The views or opinions in this post are solely that of the interviewee.)

(Photos compliments of Michelle.)

If you would like to be a part of the SPEAK OUT! project, please go to TBI Survivor Interview Questionnaire for a copy of the questions and the release form.

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